Love Impromptu

 Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?  We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work.  We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time. It’s not love we’re looking for. Only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant.  When the excitement fades, we discover nobod...

 One day, your light dim. Memories fade. Lovers leave. Friends turn against you. Family disowns you. You lose the will to live. You hate opening your eyes every morning. You bargain with God, to let one of those people on life support to live and take your life instead. But God ain't no killer so He doesn't. Then you try to step in His shoes and overdose pills or cut your wrists but you don't die. And you hate that you can't do anything right, not even kill yourself. I'll tell you one thing. After several suicide attempts and wanting to die most of the time, I simply don't care anymore. Dreams come and go. There'll be someone to fulfill what you can't, what you won't. But breathing, being you, only you can do that. So honey, it's okay. Be unproductive, stagnate in life with no progress, but be alive. Stay alive. Say no SUICIDE!!  Breathe. Cry.  Believe in someday.  But for now, just be. Your  story deserves a happier ending. Cause it all starte...

'He's such a loser' you'll hear someone back bite another. Some others might think to themselves 'am such a loser' So I thought I might share my thoughts on a winner's character. Life has been called a lot of things but my favorite is, a war. Life is a war. Generally when you go to war you have to arm yourself. Here's a few arms/pons you need to have as a winner. 1.Positivism. This involves a number of points A) Positive thinking. Every battle begins in the mind. As a man thinks so is he.Tell yourself every day that you're going to make it. B) positive speech. There's power in words. There's a difference between a person who says, 'I failed', and another who declares 'am a failure'. What you confess you possess. Watch your words. Speak positivism into your situations. Speak positivism against your adversaries. Speak positivism to people going through struggles. You'll be surprised how much difference mere words brings. ...

 A fine Saturday morning. Its just a few minutes to seven. Janet is from work. She'd been on the night shift and decides to surprise the boyfriend. They'd been arguing on the previous day. He says that Janet is not making time for him - She is all about her work nowadays. She knows that this isn't true and she's willing to go the extra mile to make it work. "He's just missing me" that's the thought running through her mind as the bus nears her destination. Janet is super excited. Nick will be so happy to see her and they'll be spending some really quality time together. Monday is a public holiday so an extended stay over there would do them good. Enough bonding time.  She's a bit drowsy and only needs a few hours of sleep. She alights the bus, crosses the road and makes her way up the stairs to apartment 404. She has a spare key that Nick had given her. She makes her entry She looks around the house. She can tell that he is still in bed. She su...

 Dear Reader,   I know they say relationships are hard but we are the ones that make them hard. Some of the obstacles that hit us in that journey are precedented and therefore can be avoided. I was asked by one reader, "I've been dating this guy for four years. Ever since I was 23. Eight months ago I was with him at his place. I asked him what the future held for us because I felt that we needed to take it to the next level. He wasn't showing any signs of taking the initiative. He was hesitant to answer me and when he did, the answer in itself wasn't that comforting. "We are gonna see!" My heart leapt out of its normal position and I angrily asked him what he meant. "You're a wonderful lady and all but your people don't like me one bit. I love you but the truth is - it will never work for me."  I was confused at all these and asked him, "If I hadn't asked you about it, when were u planning to tell me?"  He looked up and ...

  Ever been caught up wondering where to start in the dangerous dating  game? How wrong can you ever be? How wrong can it ever go?  It's never 100% perfect. The right pick - venue for a date or the company. This is the risk we take venturing in this abyss. Lucky for you, some of us have been there and as said experience the best teacher 😅😅 One fine evening, I'm entering a certain club in town. Well groomed wearing dark khaki pants, white top and a grey blazer. The bouncer freezes me and asks for my ID. Looks can be deceiving guess I'm even older than the guy 😒 I walk in, take a good look around looking for the best unoccupied spot. I identify one and walk over majestically. Once settled, the waitress approaches and I make my order. Few minutes have gone now and my full attention is on a Chelsea vs Everton match being played on the screens. I'm distracted by a melodic voice of a lady leaning over me. "Hi. I'm Lydia. Care if I join your table?"  I adjus...